From November through the New Year, it’s almost impossible to escape Christmas “cheer.” From Christmas songs in the grocery store to huge displays in the town center, no one is safe from the practically forced joy that accompanies this time of year.
Many people love Christmas, but for those who are grieving, the holiday season can stir complex emotions after a loved one’s burial in Clark County, WI. While they may be happy to have a break from work, time with loved ones and even enjoy the festivities, Christmas often reminds us of who won’t be joining us this year.
To help them navigate this bittersweet time, grieving people wish others understood these truths about grieving during Christmas.
The happiest times can still remind us that someone is missing
Many good friends will try to distract a grieving person around Christmas with fun events. This can be a wonderful way to help someone feel loved—however, it won’t make them forget the pain of their grief. That doesn’t mean that grieving people don’t want to do anything fun. It simply means that well-meaning friends shouldn’t place high expectations or conditions on the event. Expecting someone to forget their grief and to act happy when they aren’t only makes the season more difficult.
Social situations can be painful
It may seem like the best thing a person who is grieving can do is be around family and friends during the holiday. Christmas dinner may be a lovely time for everyone to share memories of grandma. For some, that’s not always the case. Attending a party full of happy children can be agonizing for parents who just lost a child. Everyone’s situation is different.
The best way to support a friend who is grieving is to acknowledge this discomfort. Let them know you understand if they can’t attend the party. Help them create a strategy for when it all becomes too much and offer an out for them to leave without making a fuss. Speaking to the person’s pain and letting them know that you see it can be a huge relief.
Even family can be a source of discomfort
While immediate family may understand the grief, extended family may not. This could lead to a lot of anxiety on everyone’s part about how to act. Extended family may be afraid to mention the deceased person, making those in pain feel the person has been erased from the family after their burial in Clark County, WI. Other family may feel the grieving period has ended and not take the person’s grief seriously.
If you feel this may be an issue for your family, contact the person grieving and ask if there’s some way that you can help. Learn if they have any requests for how the family speaks (or doesn’t) about the deceased. See if you can help spread the word or even deliver a letter from the grieving individual to make everyone comfortable at Christmas gatherings.
Learn more about what helping someone through the grieving process might look like after a funeral service in Clark County, WI by visiting Maurina-Schilling Funeral Homes.
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