It is extremely common for people who have experienced the loss of a family member or loved one to wonder how long it will take them to “move on” and get past their grieving. Despite what people commonly think about how long grief should last, the truth is that it differs for everyone, and that there is no “correct” amount of time for a person to spend grieving.
The truth is that grief isn’t a single process that you can chart over time, or something that should automatically subside after your loved one’s burial in Clark County, WI. Rather, it comes and goes along an unpredictable trajectory. There are peaks and valleys you’ll experience—some days will be much easier than others. There is no schedule for when you should be “over” your grief, and it does you no good to rush yourself.
In addition, it’s important to consider the possibility that you will likely never fully move past the grief. While your feelings of numbness or overwhelming sadness will eventually fade away, it is almost impossible to completely “get over” a loss of such magnitude—and that’s okay. There are some times that will be harder than others, such as anniversaries of the death, holidays or little moments here and there that simply remind of you of the person you’ve lost.
Here are just a few feelings and experiences you can anticipate to have over the course of time as you grieve the loss of your loved one:
- Expressing your feelings to others can help: If you have a support system of family members and friends, you may find that expressing your feelings to them can help you work through some of the grief you’re experiencing, even long after you’ve lost your loved one. You should not feel as though you have to grieve the loss alone—seeking the camaraderie of others can make a big difference. This is one of the reasons why seeking professional support from a therapist can also be a good way to manage your grief.
- Continuing to honor your loved one can help them stay near to you: Do things every now and then specifically in memory of the person you’ve lost. It might be making their favorite meal, going to a place that was special to you both or performing some sort of charitable act on their behalf. If you find time to honor them and maintain a loving connection to them, this will help you better manage the feelings of grief.
- It will get better: Over the course of time, you’ll be able to track when you go a day, a week or more without crying as a result of your grief. At some point, the tidal wave of emotion will return, but there will be increasingly more time that passes between those waves. Eventually you will be able to talk about your loved one without the sadness overwhelming you, and you’ll be able to return to activities you once enjoyed without feelings of guilt.
For more information about processing your grief and what the grieving process might look like, visit Maurina-Schilling Funeral Homes or contact our funeral planning service in Clark County, WI.
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